Communication is something that we all do every single day one way or the other. What I found so helpful in this post is how to communicate in some of the not so easy situations. The ask permission concept is something I plan on doing in the very near future in my professional life. Thank you for shining a light on this valuable strategy to help me cross a bridge I didn’t want to step on.
As a lifelong people pleaser (working on it), I am struggling right now the most I ever have in my life...and it's with my own kid. Said kid is a teenage girl, so that's obviously a big piece of the story. In addition to my pro people pleasing status, I also have two graduate degrees (one in counseling and one in communication) so I fully expected to be better at this than I am. It has been ROUGH, and she isn't really even doing anything "wrong" (aka it could be a lot worse). I just can't believe it has gotten to this point, when I used to have a sweet little girl who loved books and pretending...and me. I feel like every interaction I have with her is worsening our relationship, harming it really in the long run. I know Dr. Becky says "repair repair repair," but I don't even know how at this point. How do you repair when the other person wants nothing to do with you?
💡”We may have been taught or learned to never need anything, because that makes us most appealing to everyone around us- but it’s not a genuine reflection of who you are.” This puts language to what I’ve been discovering about myself past and present. I’m working towards bettering my future self in this aspect. There are certain parts of me where authenticity FLOWS and then other parts... it’s quite a struggle. Thank you for creating this space for learning & reflection & peace. ☮️ xoxo
Communication is something that we all do every single day one way or the other. What I found so helpful in this post is how to communicate in some of the not so easy situations. The ask permission concept is something I plan on doing in the very near future in my professional life. Thank you for shining a light on this valuable strategy to help me cross a bridge I didn’t want to step on.
Just seeing this now, thank you so much for your reflection and vulnerability here- your participation and support means the world!!
As a lifelong people pleaser (working on it), I am struggling right now the most I ever have in my life...and it's with my own kid. Said kid is a teenage girl, so that's obviously a big piece of the story. In addition to my pro people pleasing status, I also have two graduate degrees (one in counseling and one in communication) so I fully expected to be better at this than I am. It has been ROUGH, and she isn't really even doing anything "wrong" (aka it could be a lot worse). I just can't believe it has gotten to this point, when I used to have a sweet little girl who loved books and pretending...and me. I feel like every interaction I have with her is worsening our relationship, harming it really in the long run. I know Dr. Becky says "repair repair repair," but I don't even know how at this point. How do you repair when the other person wants nothing to do with you?
💡”We may have been taught or learned to never need anything, because that makes us most appealing to everyone around us- but it’s not a genuine reflection of who you are.” This puts language to what I’ve been discovering about myself past and present. I’m working towards bettering my future self in this aspect. There are certain parts of me where authenticity FLOWS and then other parts... it’s quite a struggle. Thank you for creating this space for learning & reflection & peace. ☮️ xoxo
Thank you for your continued presence & leadership in this small but mighty space!! 🪷