Ooof I need constant reminders that it’s OK to sit in hard feelings and that they don’t define us. One of the hardest things I have learned in therapy is not to fear my feelings and to just let them happen knowing I’ll come out the other side of them okay. Also Prince 4Ever 💜☔️
Thank you so much for being here and for feeling safe with your feelings!! Love love love the concept of coming out the other side okay “it’s gonna be a bright, bright, bright, sunshine-y day” 💟
Thank you for this! I read it yesterday and told myself I would use it the next time I needed it. I was confident that I wouldn’t need it anytime soon. ✨
Fast forward a few hours and I’m spiraling 🌀 about not passing a pre-assessment that would clear me to take the final for a class I’m struggling in. 🤬
I woke up this morning still in the hazy cloud of frustration... then I stacked some shame on top of it because “why can’t you just get over this? It wasn’t even the final. You have plenty of time and resources to rally and overcome. It’s not the end of the world.” 🌧️
Instead of hitting the books and getting back at it I tried something NEW. I decided to take a break and be gentle with myself allowing myself to move through the cloud and shame-nado I created. 🌪️
I decided to take myself to breakfast to a little outdoor place I like. I pulled out my journal and referred back to this article so I could use RAIN 😃 Guess what?! it worked!
I spent a lot of time in the Investigation section and learned some important things 😳 one being --> the emotions about the pre-assessment was a tipping point. I discovered that I had been internalizing “stuff” and letting it stack up. This resulted in me missing/ignoring my own cues that I needed a breather.
Bottom line: I’m not failing the class and I’m not failing at life. I’m just not ready for the next step yet. Time to retreat, go inward, and learn more. These things can’t and shouldn’t be rushed. 💜
The use of emojis here could be a book in themselves, 10/10. Thank you so much for sharing this experience with us and for practicing RAIN in the moment!! I’m going to continue to practice it as often as possible myself.
Your class will be conquered, exactly when it is supposed to be. 🦋
I’ve been working with RAIN for years and it’s had a profound effect on how I process life. Tara Brach is a gifted teacher and writer. Thanks for sharing! Oh - and I love Prince! I saw him perform on the purple rain tour 💜
Wonderful! The only step I missed, (if I didn't skip one, a mind in menopause can be cloudy and misses sometimes things, as if the brain goes for a walk and returns in another time frame) is that the reality is that you were misinformed. So your reality and the school's offering didn't match.
That's it. No shame, no quilt, just reality. So it was wise of you to decide you couldn't go after all the effort you went through to get there, hoping your dream would come true.
Life decided otherwise and you took it at heart.
There are many ways to fulfil your dream, an eduction at a school is just one of them. Some very wise people never had one ... And sometimes life has a dream for us we never thought of ourselves ...
Besides this you have a dream. you are not your dream.
So if a dream doesn't come true, it doesn't mean that you are not true ...
You're welcome. I would like to add that the reality of the happenings and the rality of emotions and thoughts are two different things. Happenings evoke emotions and thoughts that often are projected on the happenings. However they might originate out of earlier experiences we've forgotten about and they arise to be healed.
Shame and anger are the ones who can make us aware of deeper issues and in essence arise to guide us through the steps you mentioned. Anger can be used to re-connect with ourselves through the pain on a deeper level and shame can open a door to who we truely are and let our light shine, showing our charisma, our inner beauty.
Ooof I need constant reminders that it’s OK to sit in hard feelings and that they don’t define us. One of the hardest things I have learned in therapy is not to fear my feelings and to just let them happen knowing I’ll come out the other side of them okay. Also Prince 4Ever 💜☔️
#AllhailPrince 👑
Thank you so much for being here and for feeling safe with your feelings!! Love love love the concept of coming out the other side okay “it’s gonna be a bright, bright, bright, sunshine-y day” 💟
Thank you for this! I read it yesterday and told myself I would use it the next time I needed it. I was confident that I wouldn’t need it anytime soon. ✨
Fast forward a few hours and I’m spiraling 🌀 about not passing a pre-assessment that would clear me to take the final for a class I’m struggling in. 🤬
I woke up this morning still in the hazy cloud of frustration... then I stacked some shame on top of it because “why can’t you just get over this? It wasn’t even the final. You have plenty of time and resources to rally and overcome. It’s not the end of the world.” 🌧️
Instead of hitting the books and getting back at it I tried something NEW. I decided to take a break and be gentle with myself allowing myself to move through the cloud and shame-nado I created. 🌪️
I decided to take myself to breakfast to a little outdoor place I like. I pulled out my journal and referred back to this article so I could use RAIN 😃 Guess what?! it worked!
I spent a lot of time in the Investigation section and learned some important things 😳 one being --> the emotions about the pre-assessment was a tipping point. I discovered that I had been internalizing “stuff” and letting it stack up. This resulted in me missing/ignoring my own cues that I needed a breather.
Bottom line: I’m not failing the class and I’m not failing at life. I’m just not ready for the next step yet. Time to retreat, go inward, and learn more. These things can’t and shouldn’t be rushed. 💜
The use of emojis here could be a book in themselves, 10/10. Thank you so much for sharing this experience with us and for practicing RAIN in the moment!! I’m going to continue to practice it as often as possible myself.
Your class will be conquered, exactly when it is supposed to be. 🦋
I’ve been working with RAIN for years and it’s had a profound effect on how I process life. Tara Brach is a gifted teacher and writer. Thanks for sharing! Oh - and I love Prince! I saw him perform on the purple rain tour 💜
Thank you for chiming in here Jennifer!! I love Tara too, and I would have given up A LOT to have been at that PRINCE show with you! 👑
Wonderful! The only step I missed, (if I didn't skip one, a mind in menopause can be cloudy and misses sometimes things, as if the brain goes for a walk and returns in another time frame) is that the reality is that you were misinformed. So your reality and the school's offering didn't match.
That's it. No shame, no quilt, just reality. So it was wise of you to decide you couldn't go after all the effort you went through to get there, hoping your dream would come true.
Life decided otherwise and you took it at heart.
There are many ways to fulfil your dream, an eduction at a school is just one of them. Some very wise people never had one ... And sometimes life has a dream for us we never thought of ourselves ...
Besides this you have a dream. you are not your dream.
So if a dream doesn't come true, it doesn't mean that you are not true ...
Thank you so much for your wisdom and words Alja. I really appreciate your perspective and love! 🤍
You're welcome. I would like to add that the reality of the happenings and the rality of emotions and thoughts are two different things. Happenings evoke emotions and thoughts that often are projected on the happenings. However they might originate out of earlier experiences we've forgotten about and they arise to be healed.
Shame and anger are the ones who can make us aware of deeper issues and in essence arise to guide us through the steps you mentioned. Anger can be used to re-connect with ourselves through the pain on a deeper level and shame can open a door to who we truely are and let our light shine, showing our charisma, our inner beauty.
So chapeau, you did a greet job!
Beautiful reminders! I love Prince! May the magic of Purple Rain heal us all. 💜