Welcome to DPP, a weekly newsletter about the real life trials and tribulations of pleasing, and how to leverage emotional intelligence for proper recovery. Letters land on Tuesdays, please allow me a first class seat with your inbox?
Me: I had an idea a few weeks ago, after sharing the latest Ask A People Pleaser advice column.
Me again: While yes, I do enjoy listening & giving advice (where I feel I can), I also LOVE receiving advice. That’s right. I am not the Queen of Everything. I don’t know EVERYTHING about healing the patterns of people-pleasing.
Still Me: I love learning about emotional intelligence, and relationship management, partially because emotions and expressing myself have been the crux of my existence. You know that saying about “going to the root of your pain to fund your purpose”? Being unable to identify my emotions and furthermore express them, well that’s the root of it for me. It’s part of why I got so caught up in pleasing- I couldn't tell what I needed- had no clue, forget asking for help when you don’t even realize you need it!
I’m almost there: I realize I am not special, many, MANY, too many, people are not emotionally literate. This issue is not only a ME issue. But the pain of learning what is bothering me, and how to put an end to the cycle has become part of MY purpose.
Finally, You come in (I would never forget you): So where I am going with all of this is, in addition to my Advice Column Ask A (recovering) People-Pleaser, I am going to add an INTERVIEW column!! That’s RIGHT! I WANT TO LEARN FROM YOU!!
Introducing:
Oh, Please!
Are you a recovering people-pleaser?
Do you lead others with compassion *and* boundaries?
I'd love to interview you in my upcoming newsletter series, "Oh, Please!" Share your story about shedding people-pleasing tendencies and building self-care skills!
We will touch on:
📌 Self-Awareness
📌 The first time you said, "No"
📌 If you could advise fellow pleasers in recovery, what would it be (besides faking bad cell reception)?
Let me know if you are Dear People Pleasers’ first feature with a message or email.
**Interviews will be conducted via email. I’m still an introvert!
From your professional “yes-girl” in recovery,
-K. Alexandra
P.S. This message is also a humble invitation to some fellow writers whom I love to learn from:
(your most recent post quite literally changed the inner workings of my brain), , , , , , , , and perhaps ?!
P.P.S. Ask A (recovering) People-Pleaser is my advice column where you can submit your deepest, darkest, questions about how to manage the peskiest of your relationships. All you have to do is click Anonymous Questions,to bare your soul and prepare for support right quick.
Hope to *virtually* cheers with you soon!
K!!!! I would LOVE to chat with you about all things EQ. I think between the two of us we can cure the world of all it's hatred and violence. Should we schedule a 30 minute or 60 minute Zoom? Maybe 60 minutes since there's a lot of shit going on in the Middle East right now. No worries though, we will help them see reason and stop all the needless fighting, but maybe we need 90 minutes? In all seriousness, I would love to chat with you about people pleasing, EQ and all things Marvel whenever you want. Pencil me in sister and I'll meet you in the Spiderverse 🤣. Really, I wish we could meet in the Marvel world. XO 🥰❤️
Good morning, K.! I’m open to collaborating with you if you’d like to interview me. I’m still learning and am encouraged to learn from you and others here.