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I'm looking for you!

Welcome to DPP, a weekly newsletter about the real life trials and tribulations of pleasing, and how to leverage emotional intelligence for proper recovery. Letters land on Tuesdays, please allow me a first class seat with your inbox?

Hi there!

Great to see you again- and, if you’re new here- WELCOME! The greatest gift you could ever give me is your email address- I so appreciate you. For both my OG and New Subscribers: if you like what you’re reading here- PLEASE do me the ultimate favor of SHARING this work with your friends. You can simply forward this email to them and they can subscribe too. I’ll even make it easier for you. Just click this button below and send this baby on over to a people-pleaser in your life (or two).

My heartfelt gratitude goes out to not one, but TWO Substack publishers who have decided to recommend DPP to their own readers:

ADWL

&

Интеллектуальный Инвестор

(The Intellectual Investor). Thank you, friends!

Okay- with housekeeping out of the way, my message this week is SHORT AND SWEET!

Some of you have the Substack App and already know this please act surprised, and for those of you who only receive updates from me via this email right here: I am back in school. That’s right! It is HAPPENING! The stars have aligned, my letters of recommendation were convincing enough to slide me under the doors to A SPARKLING NEW TITLE of: scholar!! STUDENT!

You: What is she studying?

Me: Positive Psychology!

You: What is this malarkey made-up degree…

Me: I know. It’s almost TOO good. The study of Positive Psychology is the focus on individual strengths, opportunities to foster mindfulness, and overall wellness into the lives of those we overlap with. This program differs from traditional Psych which would focus more on diagnosis, causes and symptoms of mental illness, and emotional disturbances. Positive Psychology looks to help improve the quality of a person’s day-to-day life. ✨

You: So what does that have to do with me?

Me: I need to ask you for help, dear reader. And ask ANY people-pleaser, we will all tell you: ASKING FOR HELP IS HARDER THAN FAILING TO START A FIRE, ALONE IN THE ARCTIC TUNDRA OVER, AND OVER, AGAIN. People-pleasers believe that our net worth is somehow tied to our ability to help everyone else, and ourselves all the time, forever. Our value lies in giving and never seeking. Asking for help would mean we are not self-sufficient, we rely on others, and have the audacity to peel your attention away from your important dealings, to well, deal with us for a minute. I would rather shrivel up like a raisin in the sun than admit I am incompetent swine in need of assistance. Not because I am afraid of looking stupid, but because I am afraid to admit that I need you.

You: Yeah, I’m going to have to start charging her by the letter to keep reading these.

Me: Here is why I need your help: I started my fall courses and have landed my first assignment! I am looking for a Professor of Psychology to interview. IS THAT YOU, Dear Reader??

While I do work with a fantastic team of several Behavioral Health professionals, I am not allowed to interview a colleague.

The point of this interview project is to expand our network.

So- I am in need of a person, not just any person, but someone who teaches psychology at the college level (be it Community College or University) who would be open to completing an interview with me!

Let me save all you genius’ some time and share that my professor is not a viable option, unfortunately. I sent a few emails to her colleagues, but so did everyone else in my class- so it would be great to branch out a bit.

If this is NOT you, dear reader- may I ask: WHO DO YOU KNOW? Can we play the game of the 6 degrees of separation? Do you have a friend of a friend, who would be willing to be my friend?? Would you be a doll and re-stack this post to help connect me? I promise karma will reward you!! As I’ve shared in Networking 101, it is HARD to connect with strangers in the wild, especially for introverts like me! Any shares of this letter would be SO helpful and appreciated.

If you are a Substack writer, and meet the criteria here (again: a professor of Psychology at any higher level education establishment) I would be thrilled to share your publication (and perhaps our interview??) to help boost your readership as well.

My intention in completing grad school is to dive deeper into my research on emotional intelligence, and how it can help liberate us people-pleasers from living life in such small containers.

I’ll be working FT throughout this program (as a PT student-I still need to sleep on occasion), and I’m enrolled fully online at Arizona State University. Thus far, 10/10 experience (I’ve been enrolled here for 1 week 🤣) communication from everyone has been fantastic!

Heads up: I mayyy need to change the publication cadence of this here newsletter if school and my job have me booked and busy. I’ll let you know.

My greatest hope to be able to come back to this very newsletter and share so many of the rich nuggets of knowledge & resources I am paying top dollar for, with YOU for free! I am a staunch believer in access to wellness- be it emotional, physical, behavioral… I could go on. Everyone deserves a shot at lasting Peace. Regulation. Joy.

If you can, please- connect me with your people, or email me if you are my person. I’m looking for you!

From my arctic tundra to your warm inbox,

K. Alexandra

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